This quiz asks 15 questions that serve to alert romantic partners to signs of a potential batterer. If you are concerned about your partner, contact the Domestic Violence Coordinating Council at 402-398-9928 or the Nebraska Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Coalition at 1-800-876-6238 for additional information.

Ask yourself these questions:
Has your partner done any of these things to you?

1. Is jealous and possessive toward you, won’t let you have friends, checks up on you, won’t accept breaking up?
2. Does he/she try to control you by being very bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions, doesn’t take your opinion seriously?
3. Is scary? Do you worry about how this person will react to things you say and do? Does this person threaten you, use or own weapons?
4. Is violent? Does this person have a history of fighting, lose his/her temper, brag about mistreating others?
5. Does he/she abuse drugs or alcohol and pressure you to take them?
6. Does he/she blame you when you are mistreated? Said you provoked it?
7. Does he/she have a history of bad relationships and blames the other person for all the problems?
8. Does he/she believe that men should be in control and powerful and that women should be passive and submissive?
9. Has he/she hit, pushed, choked, restrained, kicked or physically abused you?
10. Does he/she make your family and friends concerned about your safety?
11. Does he/she insult or drive away your friends?
12. Does he/she humiliate you in private or public?
13. Has he/she gotten angry when not getting his/her way?
14. Has he/she made it necessary for you to make excuses or lie?
15. Has he/she left you feeling afraid or ashamed to talk to others about your relationship?

If you checked even one – you need to think about this relationship!

All of these situations can be classified as emotional or physical abuse…and are never justified!

(Quiz source: N.C. Council for Women, Fall/ Winter 2000)